You should know

  • Abuse is not sexual and shouldn't be referred to as such
  • Assault is not sexual and shouldn't be referred to as such
  • The moment someone forces you to have sex it's not sex
  • No one can "engage" you in abuse "activity"
  • Sex is consensual, healthy, and affirming. Abuse is not
  • Just because an abuser thinks it's sex doesn't mean it is
  • Just because an abuser calls it sex doesn't mean it is
  • If your body is aroused during abuse it's still not sex
  • Shame only belongs to the abuser
  • Saying you were abused is not an admission or a confession
  • Secrecy benefits the abuser more than the abused
  • Abusers fear the truth and the telling of it
  • You CAN heal completely
  • Both males and females abuse and are abused
  • It's what happens after the abuse that determines its impact
  • People ask for love. No one asks to be abused
  • Not talking to loved ones burdens them more than if you do